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Ever wonder why adopted and foster children behave in apparently nonsensical ways? Why do they self sabotage? Why do kind or constructive words fail to impact their behaviour? It’s because beliefs drive behaviour. That concept rocked my world back in February 2002 on the morning of my first NLP course. It explained so much about […]

Compare and contrast these two babies. SANDY (Securely Attached Normally Developed Youngster) all needs met regularly. TIM (Traumatised Infant Maltreated) neglected, ignored, hurt. This is the draft cartoon of the opening to my next book; “So you want(ed) to adopt. Ponder their probable life path. Ponder the sort of parenting Tim will need in adoptive […]

Last sunday I cooked my own meals, bought myself some flowers and uncharacteristically drank an entire bottle of wine and had a good cry. Why?  Because yet again, on Mothers Day, I received nothing from the three children I adopted 25 years ago. We’ve had minimal contact for the last seven or eight years. By […]

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